Time goes by too quickly.
This is one of the most familiar clichés and for very good reason: it’s true.
As you get older it seems as though the years slip by, and when you have kids it only gets worse. From the time they are born, children never stop growing, and before you know it they are 18 and moving on with their adult lives. Those precious memories of losing their first tooth, wearing a Halloween costume they just had to have, or the very first time they get behind the wheel of a car, you won’t be able to have again. As sad as it may be, it is the reality of the world; but there is a way to hold onto those special times with your child.
I learned recently about a parent who created an email account to which they uploaded pictures and stories about their child. When their child turned 18 the parent gave the child the login information to the email account so they could relive the glory days of their childhood.
After working with families for over a year I thought this would be a great idea for parents, especially those involved in the foster care system in one way or another. Children in foster care can often feel a loss of connection. They can feel disconnected from their families. If they return to their biological family, they might also feel disconnected from the foster family where they experienced love and safety.
Having pictures and stories emailed to such an account from both biological and foster family members could create a cohesive “scrapbook” for the child to cherish later in life.
For the adults too, having a system like this in place would help them keep a positive outlook while going through the situation with mixed-feelings.
Whether or not this appeals to you, take time to appreciate what you have. Children are special and the joy that comes from raising one cannot be recreated. Enjoy the magical moments that come from raising a child, because they are ones you’ll remember forever.
*Nathan is a CEDARS Family Support Specialist. He works to build strong families who might be under-resourced, and to keep families together as they experience crisis situations. You can read more about Nathan and his work at CEDARS in his interview.